Loving your spouse with kids in the house

Week 45

The transition from “married” to “married with children” can be tough. Less sleep. Tighter budget. Busier schedule. As much as you love your children and work hard to nurture and train them for the future, the challenges that come with parenthood can make the “for better or for worse” promise a hard one to honor. - Patrick and Ruth Schwenk

The inspiration for this post comes from an article  titled "How to love your spouse with kids in the house." No, it isn't an article on how to "make love" when kids are in the house (there are probably other articles on that). 

The focus is on building a marriage that is not centered around your kids. It isn't centered around your careers. It isn't centered around you...or her. With God at the center of a marriage, loving your spouse will not be an issue. 

The timing of this (considering you just had a baby) is either really good or really bad. On the one hand, it is good to know early on that your marriage can not become focused on your child/children. But on the other hand, you both are rightfully feeling overjoyed by the beautiful miracle in your arms. And you should feel that way!

But as time goes on, you will learn that if you try to make your marriage child-centered, it won't work out well for anybody. Keep God at the center of your marriage. In doing so, you will be a good husband and a good father. Never let your desire to be a good parent overshadow the desire to be a good husband.

Read the article and you will find some good nuggets!

It is easy to fall in love

It takes work to plan a wedding

It takes a lifetime to build a marriage